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  • Why is Mom embarrassing me in public?

    Posted by murphy-ortiz on May 10, 2018 at 1:29 pm

    Help! My mother embarrasses me when I take her out in public.She talks to stranger that she thinks she knows. When I try to take her arm and move her away, she starts screaming at me to let her go. Everyone looks at us like I’m hurting her but I ‘m not. I just don’t want her to bother other people that she doesn’t know.

    AED replied 3 months, 2 weeks ago 3 Members · 3 Replies
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  • murphy-ortiz

    Member
    May 10, 2018 at 1:30 pm

    Help! My mother embarrasses me when I take her out in public.She talks to stranger that she thinks she knows. When I try to take her arm and move her away, she starts screaming at me to let her go. Everyone looks at us like I’m hurting her but I ‘m not. I just don’t want her to bother other people that she doesn’t know.

  • brianna.kaminski@alzbetter.com

    Administrator
    April 21, 2022 at 9:18 am

    Hi Murphy,

    Mom is not intentionally trying to embarrass you. As her disease slowly robs self-awareness, she becomes less inhibited, losing both memory of how she once behaved as well as a sense of social norms. Think of it as it’s as if an internal filter on what’s polite behavior or not is turned off. It is important not to think of times that mom is acting out of the norm as “misbehaving.” She is living with a disease that is damaging their brain. Take the strangers aside and explain the situation. You may also consider creating a business type of card that say something like “Thank you for your understanding, my mom is living with Alzheimer’s disease.” You can hand these to a waitress or clerk to help them understand. Embrace that your mother is still well enough to spend time out in public with you, look at the positive that you two can enjoy your day out together just try to have some more patience and love with mom.

  • AED

    Member
    August 12, 2022 at 11:36 am

    Any additional advice on how to cultivate patience when it’s happening over and over again all of the time? Thanks!